I've been thinking a lot about love lately. i know, time to groan and say, "omg not another whiny, self centered, immature teenager" but seriously, i've had a lot to think about lately.
see, i'm beginning to think more and More that God doesn't intend for people to be in love in the way that our culture holds up as being ideal. Even outside the issue of premarital sex, which I'm pretty sure all of my readers believe is wrong.
I talking about how in the movies they seem to completely understand each other just because. They would do anything for each other, and this love isn't earned or even considered, the two people just find that they care for each other. rather than a love built from just knowing each other so well that you can really do nothing but care for each other.
I may be the only person who this happens to, but its like the difference between a spring break friendship and the friend you've known since you were little. the spring break friendship is when you meet someone, and you just click. Really they are the only person you want to hang out with, you feel like you could tell them your secrets, and they feel the same about you. It may not be a new person, it may be someone you rediscover. But, the defining characteristic is how you suddenly feel safe, like you found someone who gets you. Another factor is that those friendships tend to be short and sweet.
While the person you've known since you were little may even be someone who if you met now, you wouldn't even like. But because of how long you've known them, you understand where they come from. you been through everything with them, you understand them through experience with them. because of that, there really is no way that you can reject them, you care for them because you understand them.
Our culture seems to place more value on the first type of relationship. the kind built on intense emotion rather than long periods of experience. And God would rather we build out relationships like the second kind of friend. which i think is sad.
anyways, I'm not sure if that made any sense at all. but its something I've been thinking about a lot lately. Especially since we'll be talking about homosexuality in bible in like a week, it will be interesting to see people's different beliefs on the value of love.
please if you have an opinion or even if you just read this, can you leave a comment? i kinda want to know what people think about this.
About Me
- Emily
- I am unwritten, can't read my mind I'm undefined. I'm just beginning, the pen's in my hand, ending unplanned. Staring at the blank page before you. Open up the dirty window. Let the sun illuminate the words that you could not find. Reaching for something in the distance. So close you can almost taste it Release your inhibitions Feel the rain on your skin No one else can feel it for you Only you can let it in No one else, no one else Can speak the words on your lips Drench yourself in words unspoken Live your life with arms wide open Today is where your book begins The rest is still unwritten I break tradition, sometimes my tries, are outside the lines We've been conditioned to not make mistakes, but I can't live that way
2 comments:
I agree that I don't think God intends people to be in love the way that our culture views love. But...I'm not sure that your assessment is completely correct. :)
I have some friends like the second ones that you described, and I definitely wouldn't be friends with them if I met them on the street. There's no way I could reject them now because of our history together, and I think God has planned it that way because they need love. But I don't think that's the way He always wants it to be. I don't think He necessarily wants us to be "stuck" in something that we hate.
I don't think God has any problem with "clicking" or quick relationships. My sister-in-law met and married her husband during the time that Tom and I were engaged. They just...clicked! I don't think God has any problem with that; it's a perfectly legitimate kind of relationship. But...
I think that our culture views love as a feeling. If you FEEL attraction to someone, that means it must be right. But that's not what God talks about as love. Love is way more than an emotion, and just because you feel something doesn't mean that it's right.
That's also where my thoughts on homosexuality come in, which I don't necessarily want to get into in a comment. But I have a lot of thoughts on that, based on experiences and encounters that I've had.
I actually have a lot of thoughts about this kind of thing, but I can't write them all down. Perhaps we should talk in person! ;) We can even fight if you want.
hmm well I WAS going to comment. but then I see that Bee wrote a novel ... and she's always more insightful than I am. So I will just keep my mouth shut. :)
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